The best conversation starters for married couples

Feel closer than ever.

Research shows the happiest couples engage in fun, meaningful conversation every day. But how are you supposed to think of interesting questions to ask each other when you're both exhausted by work, kids, and trying to keep your house from becoming a Marie Kondo cry for help?

These couple conversation starters will help you reconnect with your partner in just a couple minutes a day – and make your relationship stronger than ever.

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150 miracle questions for a happy marriage.

These questions for couples are inspired by the latest research on how you can make your relationship last. And not just “last” but how you can make your relationship thrive. For example:

  • Happy couples celebrate the happy moments, no matter how small, even when they’re going through hardships. That’s why you’ll find several questions in this set that will help you reflect on the positive and celebrate that together.
  • Happy couples regularly try new things together. And so these questions for couples help you identify opportunities for making that happen, whether that means something big like taking ballroom dancing together or something small like trying a new taco food truck you’ve driven by a hundred times.
  • Happy couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds, including childhood memories, major life events, and secret hopes and dreams. Because of that, these couple conversation starters include questions to help you discover your partner’s history and what’s most important to them.

...and more. According to the experts who study the most successful relationships, these are the best questions to ask your partner every day if you want a strong, happy marriage.

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These couple conversation starters are backed by science

What couples are saying... 

  • "We already had the TableTopics for couples and those questions were pretty boring, so I was skeptical when I first saw your conversation starters. But I figured it was cheap and you have a satisfaction guarantee, so I went for it. Fred and I have been asking one question a night before bed, and it's the *perfect* way to end the night after the kids have driven us crazy all day. What I love about these questions is 1) they're not boring, but also 2) they're so thought-provoking that you could ask the same questions over and over on different days and still have an awesome conversation with your husband." – Julie 

  • "I didn't really think we needed help in the conversation department. The kids are teenagers now and it's not like we have to talk over toddlers and babies crying. But I thought it would be a fun anniversary gift, so I got the full set. The conversations we ended up having because of these I found out things about him I'd never known. Childhood stories, family traditions, hopes and dreams he has for our future when we I had no idea he wanted to buy an RV and travel the country! I've never travelled by RV, so it was an eye-opening conversation and got me even more excited for when we retire. Thank you for sharing these with us! We owe you. :-)" – Kim

  • "Ever since I started my hospital rotation, Mark and I haven't had much time together. We haven't had a date night in months. Maybe even a year or more? I honestly can't even remember at this point. I feel like we're ships passing in the night, handing off the kids and reminding each other when we need diapers or milk or whatever. I didn't think it was a big deal, just that season of life, you know? But now that we've been asking these questions anytime we end up in the same place for more than a few minutes, I feel a little giddy like back when we were first dating. They give me something to look forward to when we're alone instead of just crashing in bed after a long day and snoring in unison. We have these little inside jokes now based on the conversations we've had. 
  • And this part is less fun but even more important, but...our conversations have made me realize my work hours have been really tough on the family. I suppose I thought if we just powered through, it would be fine. It's not like I can just decide not to work. But talking about it and getting it out in the open has been really helpful and almost therapeutic. We never would have had these kind of conversations if not for your conversation cards. I get scared when I think about the path we were on before and what the stress of my work hours would have done to us in the end." – Elena 
The best couple conversation starters

Reconnect with your partner quickly.

Here are a few situations where you can use these couple conversation starters to reconnect, even when you're stressed or tired:

  • Keep the cards on your nightstand or on your pillow, then ask a new question every night before bedtime
  • Surprise your partner by texting them a question in the middle of the day
  • Pick a card and write your answer down in a shared journal, then leave it on your spouse's pillow to let them know it's their turn
  • Kick the kids outside for a "picnic" so you and your partner can enjoy a quiet(er) dinner inside and ask each other a couple questions
  • Bring the cards along on your next road trip or during weekend errands

Kelly Holmes

About the Author

Hi, I'm Kelly. I'm the mom behind the website Happy You, Happy Family, the author of a book for parents by the same name, and a Certified Parent Educator. My husband and I have four kids, and we know firsthand the consequences of not making time to reconnect as a couple. That's why we’re fierce in our resolve to keep our relationship strong.

I knew we couldn't keep letting our conversations fizzle out. We needed a way to reconnect quickly at the end of the day even when we were both exhausted.

So I set out on a quest to find out which conversation topics for couples will actually make you feel closer, according to the latest research on happy relationships that stand the test of time.

We've been using these miracle questions for couples since our youngest was born. Anytime we sense a disconnect, we’ll grab a question and ask it. Instant connection, every time.  

The questions force us to slow down, look each other in the eye, and really listen to each other.  

Sure, sometimes we have to kick the kids outside or sneak away to the bedroom for a few minutes just to have a chance of being able to hear each other’s answers.  

But that’s a small price to pay for keeping our marriage healthy and strong.

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I stand behind my conversation cards 100 percent. If you aren't completely satisfied within the first 30 days of purchasing, send me an email to let me know why it wasn't a good fit for you. I'll refund your purchase, no questions asked.

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How to get started: step-by-step

  • Order here, then download your digital PDF file from your order confirmation email.
  • Print the conversation cards using your home printer. (You can print on pre-perforated Avery 8869 business card templates and pop the cards out, or you can print on card stock or regular paper and cut the paper into cards.)
  • Drop the cards in an empty bowl or mason jar and place somewhere visible like on your nightstand.
  • Pick a question or two to ask each other every day – and get ready to feel more connected and in tune with each other.
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Frequently asked questions

Q: Is this a physical product that you will ship to my house?

This is a digital product only. After you order here, you'll get an email with a PDF file to download, which you can then print at home. In other words, there is nothing to be shipped in the mail because you get immediate access to the conversation starters PDF. Follow the instructions in the step-by-step guide above for how to print and get started using the cards right away.

Q: Do you offer any sort of guarantee?

I stand behind these couple conversation starters 100 percent. If you aren't completely satisfied within the first 30 days of purchasing, send me an email to let me know why it wasn't a good fit for you. I'll refund your purchase, no questions asked.

Download today + be a happier couple

These couple conversation starters give you a practical way to put all the best expert advice on happy marriages to work in your daily life – without having to read a teetering stack of books on how to have a successful relationship. (Because I already did that for you!)


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