Inside: You want your kids to grow up to be nice people. But how do you take a kid who tantrums every 7 seconds and turn them into a kind, caring adult? Here’s how.
You want your child to grow up to be a kind, compassionate person.
At least I don’t think anyone sets out to raise a meanie.
You have this mental picture of your child as an adult – thoughtful, generous, and loved by their friends and family.
But then you look at the child in front of you.
Maybe you have a toddler throwing the tantrum to end all temper tantrums over the fact that you won’t let them stick a phone charger in the light socket. Or a grade-schooler who loses at Monopoly and flips the board over then storms off. Or a tween who rolls their eyes at 97.3 percent of what you say.
It’s not exactly clear how you’re supposed to help your child get from point A to point B.
You’re lucky if you can get them to eat broccoli, let alone grow into a mature adult who writes prompt thank-you notes and volunteers regularly just because and remembers to call their mother more than once a year.
That’s why when I came across advice from Harvard researchers on how to raise kind and caring kids, I got a little excited.
Practical, straightforward, research-backed tips on how to teach your child to be kind? YES, PLEASE.
Bonus: Download these free conversation starters that will help raise your kids to be kind.
A Fateful Night in College
One nugget of advice in particular stood out to me: “Give your child an ethical dilemma at dinner or ask your child about dilemmas they’ve faced.”
When I first read that, a memory from my college years flashed through my mind. A bunch of my friends and I sat around one night playing a board game called Scruples.
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