Inside: Play these girl power songs to inspire your daughter to be confident, strong, and brave. Bonus: All these songs for girls are from *this* century.
Fifth grade.
The school bus had just dropped me off, along with all the other kids who lived in the cluster of apartment complexes near mine.
As a painfully shy kid, I hadn’t made any friends who lived nearby. No one to sit next to on the bus. No one to walk home with, chattering about the day. But I didn’t mind because I could get lost in my thoughts. And if I hurried, I might catch The Addams Family.
This day was like every other day, mostly. Stepped off the bus. Kept my head down. Started towards the apartment in silence.
Except that a group of sixth-grade boys got off the bus right behind me. Usually they sat at the back of the bus and took their time getting off, so I was long gone by the time they hit the pavement.
That day, they must have been in a hurry to get home. And loud. So loud.
“Ow!” one yelled while another laughed, but I didn’t turn back to see what happened.
I sped up, my shins burning.
They all cracked up at the same time.
Then got quiet.
I willed my legs to move faster.
I wasn’t sure why I was hurrying. Still, adrenaline surged through my heart.
And Then?
They barked.
One at first. He barked like a dog. At me.
The others laughed, then they barked too.
Can you see it?
A 10-year-old girl hurrying down the sidewalk, her ponytail swinging side to side, and a group of four or five boys following behind her, barking.
I ran.
What was I afraid of? Who knows.
But for some reason, I got a bad vibe off those boys on that day. As a latchkey kid, I knew there was no adult at home waiting for me. Nobody who would come looking for me if I wasn’t home at the right time.
I’m still not 100 percent sure what they meant by barking. That I was ugly as a dog? That’s my best guess.
Just kids being mean, and not really a big deal.
Except for One Thing
As an adult, I’ve relived that afternoon more than it deserves.
Why didn’t I turn around and tell them to shut up? Why did I run? Why didn’t I at least laugh it off?
The truth is: I never stood up for myself as a kid.
I just let other kids say mean things to me.
Like in fifth grade when I was supposed to write a story that was two pages long but instead I wrote 20, and I was so proud of myself. When it was my turn to read the story out loud in class, my voice squeaked and the paper shook in my hands. After I read “The End,” a boy laughed and said “She just stole that from The Goonies.” (Which was true, but still.)
Or my crush in sixth grade who told me I was “flat.”
Or the boy in ninth grade who told me: “Your nose is too big for your face.”
I want to go back in time to that shy girl, grab myself by the shoulders, and shake her until her hibernating confidence wakes like a cranky bear.
And Now?
In college, I finally learned how to stand up for myself.
But now I’m in charge of raising three girls.
The thought of other kids saying mean things to my daughters? Spreading gossip, snubbing them, barking at them? Talk about waking a cranky bear.
I’m not silly enough to think I’ll be there to protect them.
We have this thing we say at our house when any of the kids get scared or are about to do something dangerous.
My husband or I will say: “What’s my number one job?”
And the kid will answer: “To keep me safe.” Unless they’re dead-set on doing that dangerous thing. Then they’ll just glare, and we’ll say that part for them.
But part of keeping my daughters safe is teaching them how to keep themselves safe. How to speak up. How to demand respect.
Related: How to Teach Young Girls to Demand Respect
11 Best Girl Power Songs for Raising Strong Girls
We’re a big fan of family dance parties at our house. When the mood is tense or tones get snippy, you can throw on some dance music and boogie away the bad juju.
Lately, I’ve found myself craving a playlist of songs to inspire my girls to be confident, strong, and brave. Recent, fresh songs. Not stuff my grandma listened to. But also nothing that mentions twerking or milkshakes or “that boom boom that all the boys chase.”
Are my expectations too high for a Saturday afternoon playlist of songs for girls? Maybe.
But I know from experience that songs can inspire you to take a stand for yourself.
I Will Survive infused me with confidence that I could leave a toxic relationship. Once Was Love on the precipice of divorce. Help Yourself when I wasn’t sure I could get through it.
And so I put together a playlist for my daughters. A playlist for strong girls, even if they don’t know how strong they are quite yet.
If you’re raising a girl, play these songs for her.
Let the lyrics of these girl empowerment songs percolate in her growing, learning, blossoming spirit.
And when the day comes that someone is mean to her, your daughter will be ready to stand toe-to-toe with the meanness and tell him to shove that bark where the sun don’t shine.
Related: 12 Songs for a Rockin’ Dance Party With Your Kids
1. Fight Song by Rachel Platten
“This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
(Starting right now) I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
2. Put Your Records On by Corinne Bailey Rae
“Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down.You’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow.”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
3. Brave by Sara Bareilles
“Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
4. Race You by Elizabeth & The Catapult
“‘Cause there’s a shortcut down the beaten path
One step to the right, three to the left
The moon’s so high
The wind’s so fast
Makes us feel like goddesses”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
5. Mean by Taylor Swift
“You, with your words like knives
And swords and weapons that you use against me
You have knocked me off my feet again
Got me feeling like a nothing
You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard
Calling me out when I’m wounded
You, picking on the weaker manWell you can take me down with just one single blow
But you don’t know, what you don’t know…Someday I’ll be living in a big ole city
And all you’re ever gonna be is mean”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
6. Nobody Ever Told You by Carrie Underwood
“Take off all the makeup girl
Shine your light, show the world
Don’t be shy, don’t be scared
You don’t have to hide under there
Let’s throw away all the magazines
Turn off the static on the TV
Wish you could see yourself the way I do”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
7. Roar by Katy Perry
“I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sat quietly, agree politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everythingYou held me down, but I got up
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
8. Make a Noise by Katie Herzig
“Look up
You see the sky on fire
Look out
The water’s getting higher, now
Believe that you can change the world
Your dreams, have been living in a code of silence
So let them out
Find your voice, find your voice
Make a noise”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
9. Afterlife by Ingrid Michaelson
“You and me
We got this
You and me
We’re beautiful
BeautifulWe are
We are going to be alright
We got
We got we always got the fight in us”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
10. Whole Wide World by Mindy Gledhill
“I’m gonna walk a hundred miles
I’m gonna whistle all the while
If that’s what it takes to make me smile
I’m gonna walk a hundred milesI’m gonna run right up this hill
Summer sky or winter chill
If I gotta take a break I will
But I’m gonna run right up this hill”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
11. Now Is the Start by A Fine Frenzy
“Now, oh, now is the start
Oh, and it goes with where you go
Don’t lose faith for the friends
You don’t need a thing, you already know
You are right as you are”
Listen: Apple Music | Amazon Music
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What’s your favorite girl power song? Share in a comment below!
I’m a mom of four, a Certified Parent Educator, and the author of Happy You, Happy Family. I believe if you want to nurture a loving parent-child relationship that will last into the teenage years and beyond, the time for nurturing that kind of relationship is now. As a bonus for joining my weekly newsletter, download my free cheat sheet of 75 Positive Phrases Every Child Needs to Hear, plus three important pitfalls to avoid when encouraging your child with positive phrases.
This is a great post! I was a really shy kid and I really didn’t stick up for myself either. Now I’m raising three girls and I want them to be strong, brave, confident girls. . I love the idea of empowering with music! Fight Song is one of our favoirites!
How scary! I still remember when I was in sixth grade and one of the class bullies (a boy) said something about how bad I was pitching in baseball. I already forgot what he was telling me to do (maybe step off the mound?), but he threatened to “punch me” if I didn’t do it. And I held my ground because I knew if I did, I would tell him that he can do this any time. So I held my ground, ready to be punched but of course he didn’t. Same thing about 2 years earlier with ‘mean girls’ in fourth grade and I remember standing up to them because I knew to do otherwise would mean they had control over me. The sad thing is how YOUNG this starts, and while I have no daughters, I tell my kids to be kind, to help their friends and never let anyone treat them poorly.
I LOVE this post. I was that shy child once, and as much as I love that my oldest, (3) is a shy and timid girl, I do not want her to go through what I did. All the embarrassing moments, anxiety filled days.. Thank you for sharing, I hope that I can help make her feel empowered.
I’m the oldest of 20 kids. It’s a yours, mine and ours situation. In 7 days I’ll be 29. My youngest sibling just turned a year old at the beginning of the month. With the age gap I struggle to connect with some of my 12 sisters. However, I found that music connects almost everyone in some way or another. With that I set out to create something that would also empower and lift my younger sisters into feeling worthy, important and strong. Here are some of the songs I had on my list that you didn’t have on yours (although I had a lot of yours I found some new ones too!).
Still Standing- Elton John
Try- P!nk
Try- Colbie Caillat
Brave- Sara Bareilles
Roar- Katy Perry
Shake It Off- Taylor Swift
Happy- Pharrel Williams
I’m Alright- Kenny Loggins
Beautiful- Christina Aguilera
What a Wonderful World- Louis Armstrong
I Believe I Can Fly- R. Kelley
Miss Independent- Kelly Clarkson
Believe- Fantasia
Unpretty- T.L.C.
Firework- Katy Perry
Unwritten- Natasha Bedingfield
Stronger- Kelly Clarkson
Survivor- Destiny’s Child
Bulletproof- La Roux
Biscuits- Kacey Musgraves
I Will Survive- Gloria Gaynor
Respect- Aretha Franklin
Did I Ever Tell You You’re My Hero- Bette Midler
Add Dolly Parton’s “I Hope You Dance”
What a great post. Yes, I have been there too! I have been searching for music that is “appropriate” yet strong enough to share with my girls and this list is awesome. A new artist named Genevive has some fabulous ones that we hip hop to “Show your Colors” and “My authority”. Rock on!!
Loved, loved, loved this post. We also pay a lot of attention to the songs we play for our daughters.
One we all like is “Just the way you are” Bruno Mars, they feel really happy when I sing it to them
I hope you dance!! All time favorite to make me feel I could do anything! Showing my age!!
There is do mu ch shadows here I also have three daughters and same issues.
My now 3-year-old granddaughter has LOVED Stronger, by Kelly Clarkson, since she was 2. And she sees herself as strong and brave–maybe partially due to all the times she sang that song.
The Champion by Carrie Underwood!, This is Me sung by Keala Settle from the Greatest Showman
Out of the ones you have ,fight song is my favorite. I use this song, to give me a lift.when feeling down. fight like a girl,by Kaylie Shore,is my all time favorite empowerment song.Keith Urban’s, Female is a great way to show appreciation for women not so much empowerment , still very nice. I sang it while marching in #Me Too Movement.stay strong Ladies???
The band Superchic(k) also has several incredible girl-power or generally empowering songs. “Rock What You Got” is one of my faves, and also “Anthem”. There are more, and I’ll go through my playlist and figure out which ones specifically fit the bill, and post them later, hopefully.
I love this.
Don’t Call me Angel or Mabel
[Verse 1]
Could dress up, to get love
But guess what?
I’m never gonna be that girl
Who’s living in a Barbie world
Could wake up in make up and play dumb
Pretending that I need a boy
Who’s gonna treat me like a toy
[ ververse number 2 and more] I know all the other girl is going to wear expensive things and diamond rings but I don’t want to be the puppet that you’re playing on the strain this queen don’t need a king girl I don’t know what you been told but this gal right hear going to rule the world yeah that is where I’m going to be because I want to be I don’t want to sit still look pretty you get up and not too bad dream of picket fences and trophy wifes but no im never going to be cause I don’t want to sit still look pretty sure I’m a pretty girl up in a pretty world but they say pretty hurts and I don’t want to sit still I’m a pretty girl up in a pretty world but no I won’t sit still look pretty
Titanium
Hi I am Aviah and I am 10 I like all these songs but my fav is believer or radioactive or demons alll from imagin dragons
I am almost 11, and I love all these songs. I also very much like Sit Still, Look Pretty by Daya.
sit still look pretty is my favorite too
I’m 9 years old I like most of these songs but my favorite was Put Your Records On