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  1. Melanie Guilbault says:

    Great list! Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you for the wonderful tips! As a parent of a toddler, I completely get how going to bed on a positive note does wonders for a young kiddo the next morning!

  2. What do you suggest instead of “You are smart”?

  3. Momofreaders says:

    This is a great list, and I’ll bookmark it for sure. That said, if you’re kids are over the age of 6 or 7, I’d be careful about leaving it around the house. If my kids knew I needed to be reminded to express my love for them with a list, or needed ideas for how to do that, they might doubt the sincerity of my feelings (i.e., oh mom, you’re just saying that because it’s on your list), thereby undercutting the purpose of the list. So, be careful where you leave it!

    1. You make a good point! Another approach you might try with older kids is what I did with my 11-year-old daughter. I told her that I’d put together a list of sweet things to say when you love someone, and I asked her to look at the list and see if there are any phrases that would make her feel loved. She shared what jumped out at her, and I was surprised what she wanted to hear! Then I told her which ones would make me feel most loved, and it was a really sweet conversation. :-) Kind of like having a conversation about what your love languages are! (Or from your perspective you could say something like: “Hey, I found this really cool list of things to say when you love someone…” etc.)

      So then when I started saying some of the phrases, she knew where they were coming from (our conversation!) and smiled big. A little bonus side effect I didn’t anticipate is now I’ve heard my oldest use some of the phrases with her younger siblings…all because I shared the list with her up front. Melts my heart to hear it!

      1. This is such a cool way to handle it with your older daughter. I love that she was a part of it, and that she used the phrases with her siblings. I think moms need to hear this kind of thing too! But maybe if we start saying them to our kids and spouses, they’ll say some back to us as well ;)

  4. Thank you so much for sharing this! I think every parent should read this.

  5. It’s a pretty great list for saying to a spouse or friend too.

  6. Love, love, love! Perfect list! Thank you for putting this together!

  7. Kelly,
    This is so beautiful! I say some of these things to my 16-month-old and even though I know she doesn’t understand the words fully, I think she understands the love, and will repeat “I love you,” in her baby-talk way. These are all such great things to say and thank you for the printable!
    If you don’t mind, I would love to cite this post in one of my upcoming posts, I think my readers could really benefit from it, as well.
    Thank you for sharing so much love!

  8. Christine says:

    Amazing list. I love the fact that these words are so warm yet do not overpraise your child. Thanks for the ideas, are they all original?

  9. Eva Kristina Lindström says:

    recovering perfectionist =D can relate to that. Thanks for the article/list!

  10. Great list! You can never give your child enough positive reinforcement and love!

  11. Perfect list! Positive words always always affect a person, but especially when they are unexpected!

  12. Ramya Ravindra Barithaya says:

    Superb post

  13. Laura Casey says:

    Thank you for this list! This is very important for bonding with your kids and establishing their self-esteem.

  14. Awesome list. Kudos to you Kelly. It indeed touches our heart as parents!

  15. Gail McNamara says:

    Love the reminder
    we all need to remember how important it is for a child to hear this validation throughout their growing-up years including teen agers.

  16. Especially for adolescents / tweens:
    – I love the way you’re growing up.
    – Tell me what you dream about.
    – Tell me something about a career you’re considering.
    – What are you afraid of?
    – What makes you feel happy?
    – To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend. What are the qualities of a “good friend?” What do you like best about your best friend?

  17. Wow! Every parent can use this! Thank you!!

  18. Only say the ones you genuinely believe. Kids can see through it if not.

  19. Great list but I can not get the print out sent to my email unfortunately. It keeps giving me an error. I would really like it!

  20. Wow, this article is truly heartwarming! As a parent, I always look for ways to make my child feel loved and appreciated. The list of 75 positive words for kids is fantastic. I can’t wait to start using them with my little one. Thank you for sharing these wonderful suggestions!

  21. Jean Thomas says:

    My son is my miracle child, having been told I couldn’t have any. He was surrounded by complete and total love by everybody and told we loved him every day. At 12 he would stand at the top of the road and yell I love you Mum. He is now 24 and still tells me he loves me every time we speak. He is simply a very special person.

  22. Kelly, you’re writing about an important topic. As a mom of two, by the end of the day, the only thing I dream about is giving kisses, closing the door to the kids’ room, and having some quiet time to myself. I once read that this time before going to sleep is one of the most important moments of the day to connect with your kids. Now, I try to make the most of it, and your insights are a great addition.