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  1. Oh my gosh Kelly, this is brilliant! I love how you were able to turn it around and teach her a valuable lesson. Genius!

  2. Emma Craig says:

    I am *so* keeping this one in mind! What a lucky kid to have a mom who knows that there’s value in the trying too!

  3. Suzanne Schlechte says:

    I loved every word of this! It’s so hard to see kids give up trying and your idea worked brilliantly!

  4. Lori Baddeley says:

    I can not wait to try this with my son. He’s in Kindergarten and tends to get very frustrated and give up quite easily. Thanks so much for sharing.

  5. Samantha James says:

    The found your blog when trying to find resources to help a very competitive, sore loser.

    I love this technique, I love that it celebrates learning, and it reinforces that making a mistake means you learn. I can’t wait to agree what we will do for a right answer!

    I find your blog very reassuring and inspiring, Thanks

  6. Emma Craig says:

    I was the same way as a kid. I love how you’re supporting her – and teaching her mistakes are not only fine, but necessary!

  7. This made me tear up a little! I have a perfectionist 6yr old myself, and I hate seeing him be so hard on himself when he makes mistakes. I’m also a future teacher, so thank you for an awesome idea not only for my kiddo, but for my future students as well! Love it! =D

  8. Brilliant idea! In fact, we addressed the idea of “Embracing Failure” in our September 2016 newsletter. Thank you for offering this useful tip.

  9. I saw this posted on Facebook and had to read it; my daughter is very easily frustrated. This is such great advice. Thank you!

  10. Anu Budde says:

    This is my 5 year old as well. I have been doing this after i read an article asking to explain to kids that little lights get switched on when you’re learning a new thing. this visual helped him be kinder to himself/ This is a great add-on to tat!

  11. Learning to enjoy the process of learning was something that I did not understand until I was out of University and into my first job! I will definitely try this with our daughter! Thank you for the concrete example of what you might say to encourage this. I also love that you asked her what she wants. I’m sure it will surprise us all if we ask our kids that.

  12. Awesome post! Sounds like my kid.. totally need to try this. Thank you so much! So far hugs have helped diffuse the tension but we definitely needed a new game plan and this sounds so right :)

  13. I love this so much <3

  14. My 7 year old daughter gets extremely frustrated if she gets something wrong or can’t do something new on her first try. Any ideas for teaching to tie shoes? I think she is going to be wearing shoes with Velcro forever.

  15. Loved this post! I liked how you were able to turn it around. I’ll def remember this when my son starts school!